life is like a box of chocolated....time to get my point across.... have frens that blog and I think to myself if its just an in thingy or just evolution...so here I am.... putting my voice across.."holler!!!" if ya can hear me
Saturday, January 13, 2007
3 guys and the night out
3 guys each with their own worries, troubles, burden showed up unloaded them and had one of the best, rocking, dancing nights in recent times
In the house was James Taylor, Bill Whithers, Eagles, Sting and every other singer that could come to mind all voice by one guy and what a guy. He could rock, he could sing, he could make a fat man dance
More to come........ right now I have a sping in my step and I am heading out to meet a fren.
This was a good night, with good frens and good music and not luggage
Friday, January 12, 2007
Time to give my mind, body & self a treat
Now its time to treat my self
ice cream
movie
a drink maybe
hmmmmmmmm
possibilities are endless despite an empty wallet
wakakakakak
Looking for a Pal
Anyone meeting/chatting witht KLfundude (andy) give me a buzz. Cant reach him on his HP.
Nice fella and I owe him big time
Thursday, January 11, 2007
Dreams of Death
As of late I been having wierd dreams of being stabbed and most scary is my dreams of death.
Dreams of Being Stabbed
To dream that you have been stabbed, signifies your struggle with power. You may be experiencing feelings of inadequacy and defensiveness. Alternatively, you may be feeling betrayed as the popular phrase goes, "being stabbed in the back".
To dream that you stab someone, indicates your fear of betrayal and your untrusting nature. You may be too much on the defensive.
Dreams of Death
Death or dying in a dream seldom refers to an actual death. Death refers to changes in one's life, or attitudes toward certain persons, or fears of dying. Here are some possibilities of what death, dying or a dead person may represent in a dream. Death is a motif and may be the central motif of the dream.
Jnr Vadai gets Chicken Pox
Its lucky he gets it early, I got mine at age of 20
Chickenpox, also spelled chicken pox, is the common name for Varicella simplex, classically one of the childhood infectious diseases caught and survived by most children.
Chickenpox is caused by the varicella-zoster virus (VZV), also known as human herpes virus 3 (HHV-3), one of the eight herpes viruses known to affect humans. It starts with conjunctival and catarrhal symptoms, moderate fever and then characteristic spots appearing in two or three waves, mainly on the body and head rather than the hands and becoming itchy raw pox (pocks), small open sores which heal mostly without scarring.
Chickenpox has a two-week incubation period and is highly contagious by air transmission two days before symptoms appear. Following primary infection there is usually lifelong protective immunity from further episodes of chickenpox. Recurrent chickenpox is fairly rare but more likely in people with compromised immune systems.
11am on a Thursday morning
Scenario
We quote version 1 for 9 panels on a price an agreement
Then we quote version 2 for the same panel with further 10% on the price agreement
Then email comes in Dec 21 please quote 2 pcs of one item of the panel. By business laws you use the last price you quoted them.
Now you not happy with them you go a head and quote a list price
WTF
Dun blame me when you do not specify which price to put in. You want something done spell it out in black and white
Unique Circumstances
When you have a situation where by there is a compromise between 2 people who cant see eye to eye or are in a compromise for an equal interest then you have 'meet cute'
Interesting how life presents it self with many 'meet cute' situations and yet people expect more then we present on paper.
Same as work or any other environment that we engulf ourself daily. Its there
Open you eyes... dun expect more then there is or belief in more then you shout ... in the end... life is like a box of chocolates
Turning a new leaf -- naaaaaaahhh
Wednesday, January 10, 2007
All night
Wish we could pull the plug on this
Despair & Dejected
Secondly, my so called getaway, escape, breakaway from work to a far far away land for Thursday , never materialized, imagine ticket in hand, arrangements all made at both ends and the things that screws it up is the late delivery of the printers and a tender closing.
Just once, just once when I though I could have they moment of breakaway it comes crashing all around, will try again
Damm its not good and still working around the clock.
Tuesday, January 09, 2007
What Is Gratitude?
# Gratitude is a positive emotion which involves a feeling of emotional indebtedness towards another person, often accompanied by a desire to thank them or reciprocate a favour.
lets us not forget things other do for us
Gratitude is when memory is stored in the heart and not in the mind. --Sam N. Hampton
Billy Joel - Piano Man - Friggin awesome lalalalaala
| It's nine o'clock on a Saturday The regular crowd shuffles in There's an old man sitting next to me Makin' love to his tonic and gin He says, "Son, can you play me a memory? I'm not really sure how it goes But it's sad and it's sweet and I knew it complete When I wore a younger man's clothes" La la la, de de da La la, de de da da da Chorus: Sing us a song, you're the piano man Sing us a song tonight Well, we're all in the mood for a melody And you've got us feelin' alright Now John at the bar is a friend of mine He gets me my drinks for free And he's quick with a joke or to light up your smoke But there's someplace that he'd rather be He says, "Bill, I believe this is killing me." As the smile ran away from his face "Well I'm sure that I could be a movie star If I could get out of this place" Oh, la la la, de de da La la, de de da da da Now Paul is a real estate novelist Who never had time for a wife And he's talkin' with Davy who's still in the navy And probably will be for life And the waitress is practicing politics As the businessmen slowly get stoned Yes, they're sharing a drink they call loneliness But it's better than drinkin' alone Chorus It's a pretty good crowd for a Saturday And the manager gives me a smile 'Cause he knows that it's me they've been comin' to see To forget about life for a while And the piano, it sounds like a carnival And the microphone smells like a beer And they sit at the bar and put bread in my jar And say, "Man, what are you doin' here?" Oh, la la la, de de da La la, de de da da da Chorus |
They say this song is actually based on real events that happened while billy joel was playing at small piano bars or bars in general while he was getting screwed over with a contract. THe people in the song real and everythign about them real and the waitress who is practicing politics is his first ex wife.
Piano bars are notorious places for various people who have given up on life or who are at dead ends. The place of the "confirmed bachelor" as the cliche goes.
In any event, the song is great because it just illustrates so well how a simple musician can inspire so many people and great sing along tune
Mamak
Upon hearing few was going and the rain indirectly change my mind and a phone call from makcik did help in away. Lacy had her FIL dinner, Maria still without transport.
Kalai and Beem picked Cleo up and Warren offered to pick me, Marie not knowing where it is with grandma and Azie met at Bisik as we all climb into Warren's Nissan Sentra instead of Nissan Sunny.
All in all 7 of us in a good enjoyment. It was ncie. Headed home while some went to jam else where. Nice to meet makcik
Monday, January 08, 2007
Barnyard
I love animation and wait till u see the voices behind these characters
| Kevin James | .... | Otis the Cow (voice) | |
| Courteney Cox | .... | Daisy the Cow (voice) | |
| Sam Elliott | .... | Ben the Cow (voice) | |
| Danny Glover | .... | Miles the Mule (voice) | |
| Wanda Sykes | .... | Bessy the Cow (voice) | |
| Andie MacDowell | .... | Etta the Hen (voice) | |
| David Koechner | .... | Dag the Coyote (voice) |
M gonna enjoy tonight
Horrible Monday
We need to deploy 4 units of high end printers, I finally got support staff under me even though I have to whip them into shape.
Mum's 70th Birthday coming around and she is adamant we should not celebrate...sigh one of those days. Here we are scraping the barrel trying to commemorate her 70 years and the slam the door shut.
Ironically a week later they having a big party for my number 6 who is turning 60. How do you explain the basis...... give up
I send out an invite for a bday to 12 people and only one... I repeat only ONE wants to question the manner and the justification and more ridiculously how I would conduct my self. Oi if you get an invite either come or dun come, dun play 20 questions with me, Wont work anymore. Dun want to come your choice. If want to come, then come with an open mind not an questioning mind.
M sick and tired by people who want to judge both sides of my action. Frens will come and go, the rest is bla bla bla
Kaffee: Is the colonel's underwear a matter of national security? .
-Why wori bout the underware just the attire cukup. Dun poke the nose into thing that are underneath.
Felicia read my blog and I stuck to my guns. I got a phone call of rambling this and that , I mean like wei there comes a time all the dram and cock and bull story wont help. If you want to show up show up la. I aint not kiddo at a playground
Sunday, January 07, 2007
Kops Down
I really hope they win something this year
Saying goodbye
They could not grasp the reality so Bye bye
Cleo Party
It was lovely to see Cleo and she brought along splatters. Grandma was dating David who coincidental was his bday. I manage to get the band to wish him H-bday
I saw Sam outside and spent a lot of time talkin with him so proud of him. Must drink with him when I have the chance to celebrate
2 unexpected ppl showed up, they did not bother to saw hello so fuck them. I left on my own accord leaving behind people who pretend to be friends and people who pretend to have false relationships wakakakak
Its really nice to meet Cleo, Marie and Azie, Marie talking of wedding bells and I really hope it works out for her and her Blondie. Marie and I kind of drifted apart I sometimes m lost in how to interact with her at time seem like 2 strangers
at least I get to sing at her wedding. Angie despite asking time and place did not show up. Maria also the same. Commie was out, Jen out, Dom dun know, Kalai and Beem each on their own holiday. David arrived conquered and left. Well he should have given grandma a lift instead of letting her take a cab. Anyway not my business just an observation.
Wanna celebrate my bday. Sadly pool lost 3-1
Saturday, January 06, 2007
For Jen
| 2. | unencumbered - not burdened with cares or responsibilities; "living an unencumbered life" unburdened - not burdened with difficulties or responsibilities; "unburdened by an overarching theory"- Alex Inkeles |
So that we are on the same page waakakakak
Life without relationships, obligations, fear and wat-so-not
How I Spent my New Year Part 1
I awoke today to work. It feels good to be back... when I get home mainly it mean getting up to speed wiht the office work, chores, list, bills etc etc but I aint complaining.
New Year,
honestly I was more engrossed withthe holiday break then to actually realise or accept or plan for new year. I herbinated this new year.
New Year are full of rituals
you got your New Year's Resolutions (and they usually amount to: eat less, exercise more).
Then you got the list The best off the worst off the top 10 the top 100
The you got Tagging...you get some emial saying you hav been tagged DUH!!!
So far, i've seen myself tagged at least six times.
Here's another issue.... Who are YOU? If i'm supposed to list five things that you don't know about me and i don't know who you are, then how do i know that you don't know it? I mean, some of you probably don't even know the most basic facts about me. Blurness setting in
EACH January, I, like most other folks, make New Year's resolutions. And, I, like most other folks, very rarely stick to them. But this year, I've decided to make only one resolution. That's right, just one. But it's one that--if I pull it off--could change my life forever.
To Quote Jen's Blog
*looks at the vadai... glad you changed your water pump now when we told you to?*
Fucking Hell Yeah!!!!
However, after observing the water through the radiator cap, note that there are bubbles in the water system...
*sighs*
(head gasket leakage)
Now where have I heard that before
Which means that this weekend is set aside to do some car repairs.
(looks at the vadai again.... wanna join in?)
Instant Hard on
waakakakakakak Hell Yeah
Jen sms me at almost 1am in the morning bout asking if I be interested to repair the car over the weekend. Dude must you ask!!! Lagi pun m free and got nothing to do not any dates waakakakakaak except FA Cup
Artist: Jason Mraz Song: You and I Both
This song had me hooked from the very first line. Anyways, I think this is a song about two people who love each other very much but understand that their love might not last forever ("if nothing else I'll think the bells inside/have finally found you someone else") but if that happens, they'll still have positive memories about the relationship ("I'll remember everything you sang"). Still damm jiwang
Was it you who spoke the words that things would happen but not to me
Oh things are gonna happen naturally
Oh taking your advice I'm looking on the bright side
And balancing the whole thing
But often times those words get tangled up in lines
And the bright lights turn to night
Until the dawn it brings
Another day to sing about the magic that was you and me
Cause you and I both loved
What you and I spoke of
And others just read of
Others only read of the love, the love that I love.
See I'm all about them words
Over numbers, unencumbered numbered words
Hundreds of pages, pages, pages forwards
More words then I had ever heard and I feel so alive
You and I, you and I
Not so little you and I anymore
And with this silence brings a moral story
More importantly evolving is the glory of a boy
Cause you and I both loved
What you and I spoke of
And others just dream of
And if you could see me now
Well I'm almost finally out of
I'm finally out of
Finally deedeedeedee
Well I'm almost finally, finally
Well I'm free, oh, I'm free
And it's okay if you have go away
Oh just remember the telephone works both ways
And if I never ever hear them ring
If nothing else I'll think the bells inside
Have finally found you someone else and that's okay
Cause I'll remember everything you sang
Cause you and I both loved what you and I spoke of
and others just read of and if you could see now
well I'm almost finally out of.
I'm finally out of, finally, deedeeededede
well I'm almost finally, finally, finally out of words.
Friday, January 05, 2007
Love Me Lyrics by Collin Raye
Love Me Lyrics by Collin Raye
I read a note my grandma wrote back in 1923
Grandpa kept it in his coat and he showed it once to me
He said," Boy you might not understand, but a long long time ago
Grandma's daddy din like me noone, but I loved your grandma so
We had this crazy plan to meet, and run away together
Get married in the first towm we come to and live forever
But nailed to the tree where we supposed to meet instead
i found this letter and this is what it said
*If you get ther before I do, don't give up on me
I'll meet you when my chores all through, I don't know how long I'll be
But i'm not gonna let you down, Darling wait and see
But between now and then till I see you again
I'll be loving you..love me
I read those words just hours before my grandma passed aways
In the doorway of a church where me and grandpa stopped to ray
I know I never seen him cry in all my fifteen years
But as he said those words to her
His eyes filled up with tears
*
And between now and then till I see you again
I'll be loving you... love me
Awesome
Thursday, January 04, 2007
2 kinds of lunch
Wednesday, January 03, 2007
Vindicated - Truth
A few years back as I building my base in KL, I was confronted with a serious predicament.I situation had surfaced and accusations were hurled. The truth was stretched further then it should because some people wanted to benefit from it. There was crucial personal information that only 2 parties could have known.
I stood my ground at that time defending who I should, defended for reason best known to me. A lot of my credibility was questioned both in real and online and weather the stretched truth was true.
I could have denied it, I could have said no, I could have let everyone who told me things in confidence to suffer. In the end I would have been in the clear and rest would have suffered. I aint no knight in shining armour but I got my stand and I stood my ground. I zipped my mouth and defended who I trusted. I fought hard to defend people I should defend. The rest burned me. Even when I told them to trust me, they never did.
So I let them move on. Why? Coz if someone dont trust you as a friend whats the point of the drama to keep them as a friend. So for over 1 year I let them go, let them move on and now when I have truth in my hands do I want them to know? Nah Why? No point. At the time when I need to you to stand by me as a friend, you let me down. We have all moved on from that chapter. Not here to blame them either
Sounds familiar doesnt it. It has come to light now, who orchestrated the whole drama, who stood to gain from it and who was victimised and most important how they came to know crucial information that only either one could know. The game plan was to break the symphony up when there was nothing wrong. The only thing wrong from it was they would stand to lose everything. Meaning what ever they were using their friends for now would be lost. Why? Jealousy? Dependency? Manipulating people and action for the benefit of a singular hmmmm
The truth has out and what I believed and trusted in some people makes me feel good. I am happy. I could go around and say "na-na-na-na" I told you so, but for what purpose. I know I was right to defend who I should when I should. I was right to believe in what I believed.. and now with out without people I lost along the way I am still here.
I flew and I am on my feet.
Makcik Coming to town
Come to think of it I aint met the gang over a long time...
not met in ages
subbie, angie(mrs), shawn, maria
more then a month
rashwan, commie, xxxieee, beem, cathy, agi, peacock, david, Funky V
less then a month
edward, grandma, jen, scuddie,
wow I been out of touch. Must intro my new frens to this group....hmmm then again maybe all groups should be kept apart wakakaaka
Oh yeah I promised I do this
Jollylads - Hu Ha
Spiderman Homework
Drinking Guide - Funee
St. Patrick's Day Drinker's Troubleshooting Guide
IRISH BEER TROUBLESHOOTING GUIDE | ||
SYMPTOM | CAUSE | CORRECTIVE ACTION |
Feet cold and wet | Glass Being held at incorrect angle. | Rotate glass so that open end points toward ceiling |
Feet warm and wet | Improper Bladder Control | Stand next to nearest dog, complain about lack of house training |
Beer unusually pale and tasteless | a. Glass empty. | Get someone to buy you another beer |
Opposite wall covered with fluorescent lights | You have fallen over backward. | Have yourself leashed to bar |
Mouth contains cigarette butts, back of head covered with ashes | You have fallen forward | See above |
Beer tasteless, front of your shirt is wet | a. Mouth not open | Retire to restroom, practice in mirror |
Floor Blurred | You are looking through bottom of empty glass | Get someone to buy you another beer |
Floor moving | You are being carried out | Find out if you are being taken to another bar |
Room seems unusually dark | Bar has closed | Confirm home address with bartender. If staff is gone, grab a six-pack to go and hit the nearest fire escape door. Run |
Taxi suddenly takes on colorful aspect and textures | Beer consumption has exceeded personal limitations | Cover mouth, open window, stick head outside |
Everyone looks up to you and smiles | You are dancing on the table | Fall on someone cushy-looking |
Beer is crystal-clear | It's water! Somebody is trying to sober you up | Punch him |
People are standing around urinals, talking or putting on makeup | You're in the ladies' room | Do not use urinal! Excuse yourself, exit and try the next door down the hall. Try to get phone numbers (optional) |
Hands hurt, nose hurts, mind unusually clear | You have been in a fight | Apologize to everyone you see, just in case it was them |
Don't recognize anyone, don't recognize the room you're in | You've wandered into the wrong party | See if they have free beer |
Your bedroom is painted gray, has a concrete floor and an interesting steel door. Toilet may be conveniently located next to your bunk | a. You're in jail | Sleep it off, you can always get out tomorrow. Don't talk to your new roommate, and under no circumstances sleep on your stomach |
You are dancing to a Village People song, and your partner is wearing leather chaps | You're in a gay bar | Keeping your back to the wall, edge toward nearest exit. Do not accept offers for backrubs |
Your singing sounds distorted | The beer is too weak | Have more beer until your voice improves |
Don't remember the words to the song | Beer is just right | Play air guitar |
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Tuesday, January 02, 2007
Things we do - without bragging
We go thru life with a lot of things said and unsaid, done and undone, a lot of things we do we dun explain coz that's the way we are. Doesn't matter if to should a responsibility, carry a burden, to accept a blame ....whatever
A family is an important thing a fact I drive into my family time and time again. Dun let the society know what can be kept within 4 walls. Don't know if that is good or not but it works for me. There are thing between me and certain members in my family I carry to my grave.
My family is big, 9 uncles itself on one side and so was the function I spoke about, No 5 is the uncle (the bride's daughter), he is the kind of fella who got ego (like me) got pride (hell yeah) and does thing without even his wife knowing, (not bad things la but helping people)
No 1 is my eldest uncle, ageing, I hold him in the highest respect, I make sure I visit him every chance I get and for Deepavali or New Year (Hindu) we all pay him a visit. Dun let me get started bout problems with his successful kids(sigh). He knows about my life and we often sit and talk, he is old school.
So he came for the function, and was quiet. He called for me (me being the superman working like a dog making everything perfect for no 5's function, jaga the food, the ice the drinks), in an indirect way he ask me for angpau packet to bless the bride He took 20 ringgit out of his wallet and that all that was there. Fucking kids dun make sure the elders got duit or not when come for function. The joke is all I had in my wallet was 10 bucks. KNN. Told no 1 I will get him the packet quietly and gently pushed aside his wallet. He look at me and eyes said a lot.
I went to no 5 ask him pinjam 50, he told me to go and take from his room. Could not find an angpau packet I went and asked him. He followed me to the room then he asked me why? Weather I did not have money to give the bride etc etc. So I finally told him why and who it was for.
This is his character. No 5 took RM 201 put in the angpuy and put it in his pocket and said he will take care of it. As he walked out it was time to bless the child. No 5 escorted No1 and said loudly for all to head "Annai (Brother) here is the angpau packet you asked me to hold on to" and so he blessed the bride to be (pics below). I had tears in my eyes and No 5 patted me on my back and the function went on. Ironically I was proud of what he did and was narrating to Jen the other day. Later on when No1 was leaving I assisted him to his car. He grasp my hands and I just smile.
Asshole kids
We do the things we do not for name, not for publicity but at times when its the right thing to do. As I type this, in my pad I was vindicates over a dramatic incident that took place a few years back. I stood my ground, zipped up and trusted who I need to trust. Today I know the truth and those who did not believe have moved on. M happy. this is for another blog
As usual Jnr Vadai was in his element pics below
Caricature
I had one done of Jnr Vadai Rm 10 bucks at DG Street Party hehehe try to scan it soon
Sam's Wedding Dinner
For the record his sacrifices was awesome in the recent PMR exam the son got 6A's and he call me and so happy he was almost crying.
When I got cash I am buying him a drink. A good friend and a great father and a great mother
Kopitiam Kemaman-Kuantan
Monday, January 01, 2007
Cinta - The Movie
Its a movie worth watching. Definitely!!!
Bye 2006 Hello 2007
Jen is sure gonna be singing to this
Boyz II Men - It's So Hard To Say Goodbye To...
How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.
I thought we'd get to see forever
But forever's gone away
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.
I don't know where this road
Is going to lead.
All I know is where we've been
And what we've been through.
If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it's worth all the wait
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.
And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.
And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.
Friday, December 29, 2006
Mix FM meet Jnr Vadai
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Amongst the greatest songs
Led Zeppelin - Stairway To Heaven
There's a lady who's sure all that glitters is gold
And she's buying a stairway to heaven.
When she gets there she knows, if the stores are all closed
With a word she can get what she came for.
Ooh, ooh, and she's buying a stairway to heaven.
There's a sign on the wall but she wants to be sure
'Cause you know sometimes words have two meanings.
In a tree by the brook, there's a songbird who sings,
Sometimes all of our thoughts are misgiven.
Ooh, it makes me wonder,
Ooh, it makes me wonder.
There's a feeling I get when I look to the west,
And my spirit is crying for leaving.
In my thoughts I have seen rings of smoke through the trees,
And the voices of those who standing looking.
Ooh, it makes me wonder,
Ooh, it really makes me wonder.
And it's whispered that soon if we all call the tune
Then the piper will lead us to reason.
And a new day will dawn for those who stand long
And the forests will echo with laughter.
If there's a bustle in your hedgerow, don't be alarmed now,
It's just a spring clean for the May queen.
Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There's still time to change the road you're on.
And it makes me wonder.
Your head is humming and it won't go, in case you don't know,
The piper's calling you to join him,
Dear lady, can you hear the wind blow, and did you know
Your stairway lies on the whispering wind.
And as we wind on down the road
Our shadows taller than our soul.
There walks a lady we all know
Who shines white light and wants to show
How everything still turns to gold.
And if you listen very hard
The tune will come to you at last.
When all are one and one is all
To be a rock and not to roll.
And she's buying a stairway to heaven.
Synonymous with Led Zeppelin, as Bohemian Rhapsody is with Queen and I Don't Get No Satisfaction is with the Rolling Stone.. I guess.
The meaning I could care for it less, whether it be satanic or not. I live for the music man.
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Dinner Invite
Been a long time since I have been to a Xmas dinner, Turkey!!!! Pick up at 8pm
Blogging
Also I notice I posting more song with meaning and lyrics... not sure if they are related.
hmmmmm
Glass Half Full, Glass Half Empty
Like it or not when we view thing we naturally tend to see things from our perspective, no harm in that. That the way of life. It becomes an endangerment is that the only point of view you will accept.
Case in point of a cousin getting married. Married on not acceptable circumstances. WTF not acceptable to whom? The 2 fella gonna life together and they ready to face it after almost 8-9 years of relationship and here you are going gun ho about it.
Questions
Do you know the guy? NO
Have you talk with the guy of the family? NO
Have you met or interacted with people of they culture or way of life? NO
Dun want to ask any more question, just zip up and shut up.
Time have changed and will continue to change. Rules and way of lives of the past are all evolving. Change is upon is why is it so difficult to let people be the way they want to be.
Is it a crime if they choose to life the way they wish, with who they want?
Fuck Buddy
Hahahah that will turn a few uncle and aunt heads but I got to admire my cousins for the trust and the frankness of discussion.
Dog, This one for you.
1. Fuck Buddies
Term used for sexual partners that regularly engage in sexual activities with each other, but do not share the usual emotional attachment of a standard boyfriend/girlfriend relationship (or boyfriend/boyfriend, or girlfriend/girlfriend, etc. etc.).
Often used to describe two people who use each other solely for sexual gratification and nothing else. Usually this is a sexual relationship that still allows for each partner to seek sexual and emotional relationships with other people (hence, no attachments) but can rely on each other for a quickie or a booty call .
Many people can be critical of the nature of these relationships, alleging that it is impossible to engage in sexual behaviours without any kind of emotions at all. The practitioners may often feel this is somewhat of a non-issue, taking the viewpoint that while the physical relationship alone is fine, it is up to the partners to decide whether emerging emotions allow the friendship to evolve into a full fledged romantic relationship. In some instances where both parties start to feel this way, a more traditional relationship may develop. However, when these feelings are unrequited, it could lead to jealousy, feelings of betrayal or feelings of being used.
Motives for casual relationships vary, and should be distinguished from casual sex, which is specific type of casual relationship. Casual relationships sometimes include mutual support, affection and enjoyment, which underpin other forms of loving relationship. It is possible for casual relationships to become long-term relationships in the course of time.
We are evolving in the definition of relationships, creating new rules, new levels and exploring new boundries that 20, 10 or even 5 years people would shun and look down about it. WE read about swinging, swapping etc etc and in the internet age where such information is openly available we are trying to embrace it.
Is it right? It is culturally acceptable? (Heck same sex marriages was a head turned years ago and look where we are now) It is morally right? Question after question are left unanswered.
The problem with people embracing this culture, this way of life is the lack or knowledge how its suppoed to work and they wing it. The people who practised and preached this have all gone thru the mill. What you got to ask yourself is, if this is right for you? Not coz if feels good but is it right for you. Dun do it just coz it gives you the kicks. Dun dive into the pool without checking if there is water in it
Monday, December 25, 2006
Destiny
So tonight when I lay back at home watching a movie called Serendipity, it brought a lots of nice lovely memories for me ...Tagline: Can Once In A Lifetime Happen Twice?
Its a movie that back in 2001 when you talk about destiny and fate and stuff. A worth watch. We go thru life a lot of time turning the other cheek and not willing to take a chance of exploring. This however was a movie. In life we take risk at times and let the cards fall. Nt a day I would look back of not taking a chance. I got Jnr Vadai and that makes me smile. Dats all I need
"Yet even in certain defeat, the courageous Trager secretly clung to the belief that life is not merely a series of meaningless accidents or coincidences. Uh-uh. But rather it's a tapestry of events that culminate in an exquisite, sublime plan. "
Nice, not being the fall guy
I been a fall guy for too many reasons in my life and for many people, sometime being nice has its disadvantages. Surprisingly being nasty also has its advantages. This Christmas someone whom I had not expected stood up and took the fall.
mmmmmm let me enjoy the moment, I dun get this often ................. .......... ...............
As Billy Joel said in his 90 minute program earlier, Give shit back to people who give you shit.