Stevie Wonder : You can't base your life on other people's expectations.
There is a grey line when it comes to expectations especially when it comes to friends and more so when it is family. Like a kid celebrating a birthday expecting a particular gift after dropping all the hints the anti climax is when that the family dont pick up and the kid goes into a sulky mood the punch line would certainly by "I gave you enough hints"
The classic example will always I left you enough signs. While its easy to brush aside the above kids predicament its a whole different ball game when it comes to adults.
While the preaching of family ties and bond and blood or even in friendship with words as trust, openness and buddy or bro etc etc, the viciousness in the silent expectation of the others conduct, deliverable and reliability is a cancerous to one's own. It will eat you within, tear you up but on the outside you portray all is well.
Why it happen coz using excuses like respect, honor, friendship, I did it for you so you must do it for me or the classic this is the minimum standards for friendship / relationships
My question is this who actually define these standards? Whatever happen to talking about it? does it make you smaller? Cheap? too shy?
I watched brother and sister not talk to each over over 15 years god only knows for wat reason and all it took was the brother going to the wrong address where the sister lives and a tearful reunion takes place and all is forgiven
Communication is the key, when family or friend refuse to communicate and take self professed stand and opinion who do you actually expect the other party to know. When family draw lines for the weirdest reasons its the other party that suffers? do they deserve it?
Me? simple if you wanna go and draw lines and behave in that manner..... I probably ask once or twice then carry on. Why? Life is hard enough as it is with work and challenges to life by the last thing I need is for someone having an issues with me and refuse to tell me the reason lol
Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! - Guy Finley