We say "yes"to others because we want to please them. But when eventually we can't continue, we let them down and we feel guilty. Both parties suffer. Recognize that a desire to please often prevents us from saying no.
Its not difficult but to yank others around the chain no fun. such is my dillema, I have people in my network friends and work friend and buddies alike who is very difficult to get a commitment form, then a
My solution, I tell them straight off a yes is a yes a no is a no, there are no maybe in life after all its RM100. If I wanted to be sarcastic I could then again, why would I want to lose my temper for.
The basics was a couple of weeks back I had a dinner coming up and I texted my group would would be able to attend and what it was for and how much it cost, Some said yes some said no.
Some asked more question about it, I was happy to oblige after all it was their own money.
I get miffed when some of them never bothered to anwer
I get miffed some reply saying if there cheaper tickets, these are people who in one night would spend RM100 on just beer ( go figure)
I get miffed people who are confirm then pull out last minute
I get with the above people who then say hope you dont mind, my reply I am sorry I do mint, I thought you had more character then just blowing hot air, but thank you anyway
Still reciprocation sound so evil hahahah