Tuesday, December 26, 2006

Fuck Buddy

Well my cousins and I were chatting bout 6-7 of us talking about marriage, relationships and family, the core of the discussion talked Fuck Buddies or FUBU as LCG like to label it. (Horror of Horrors)

Hahahah that will turn a few uncle and aunt heads but I got to admire my cousins for the trust and the frankness of discussion.

Dog, This one for you.
1. Fuck Buddies

Term used for sexual partners that regularly engage in sexual activities with each other, but do not share the usual emotional attachment of a standard boyfriend/girlfriend relationship (or boyfriend/boyfriend, or girlfriend/girlfriend, etc. etc.).

Often used to describe two people who use each other solely for sexual gratification and nothing else. Usually this is a sexual relationship that still allows for each partner to seek sexual and emotional relationships with other people (hence, no attachments) but can rely on each other for a quickie or a booty call .

Many people can be critical of the nature of these relationships, alleging that it is impossible to engage in sexual behaviours without any kind of emotions at all. The practitioners may often feel this is somewhat of a non-issue, taking the viewpoint that while the physical relationship alone is fine, it is up to the partners to decide whether emerging emotions allow the friendship to evolve into a full fledged romantic relationship. In some instances where both parties start to feel this way, a more traditional relationship may develop. However, when these feelings are unrequited, it could lead to jealousy, feelings of betrayal or feelings of being used.

Motives for casual relationships vary, and should be distinguished from casual sex, which is specific type of casual relationship. Casual relationships sometimes include mutual support, affection and enjoyment, which underpin other forms of loving relationship. It is possible for casual relationships to become long-term relationships in the course of time.

We are evolving in the definition of relationships, creating new rules, new levels and exploring new boundries that 20, 10 or even 5 years people would shun and look down about it. WE read about swinging, swapping etc etc and in the internet age where such information is openly available we are trying to embrace it.

Is it right? It is culturally acceptable? (Heck same sex marriages was a head turned years ago and look where we are now) It is morally right? Question after question are left unanswered.

The problem with people embracing this culture, this way of life is the lack or knowledge how its suppoed to work and they wing it. The people who practised and preached this have all gone thru the mill. What you got to ask yourself is, if this is right for you? Not coz if feels good but is it right for you. Dun do it just coz it gives you the kicks. Dun dive into the pool without checking if there is water in it

1 comment:

foreverinteresting said...

interesting topic.... i love it :p