Sunday, December 03, 2006

An Interesting read on the web

Are you too nice? How can anyone be "too nice"? Isn’t being "nice" a good quality to have in a relationship?

Yes, it’s true that people will value niceness in others, but if your way of being nice is to suppress your own needs constantly, you are being too nice for your own good. If you always put the needs of others first, and your own needs last, if you don’t speak out when your own needs are ignored, then you are being too nice for your own good.

When you express your niceness as a sign of genuine respect, kindness and interest in another person, it is a wonderful quality to have. When the "niceness" is a by-product of low self-esteem, passivity, or desperate loneliness, it can be a liability, and can make other people feel uneasy, guilty, or even attract the sort of people who are willing to exploit you.


- Oh boy!! Got a few around me

2 comments:

marie said...

well being nice and not being sincere about it... isnt nice at all thats what i think!
But we there are many of these people...i for one can put myself in that category for a reason of coz...it makes alot of sense.. like u said :-
"If you always put the needs of others first, and your own needs last, if you don’t speak out when your own needs are ignored, then you are being too nice for your own good."

darthvadai said...

Trying to break out of the mould girl.... trying