Wednesday, August 02, 2006

The Good & Bad of Casual Sex between Friends

Before I get whiplashed this is a general out look in the every evolving society, its acceptance and its beliefs... Today through my meeting of people in the real world and cyber world, I have come to notice, understand and to a certain extent comment on this scope of relationships. FB is a widely used terminology, In short they call it a FUCK BUDDY but in actuallity its called "Friends with Benefits"

There's a time-honored saying that goes something like this: "Friends are friends, pals are pals, and buddies sleep together." I think it is mainly poking fun at those who use the words describe friendships that are, shall we say, more than platonic. Like the term "FF" -- short for F*ck Friends -- also known as "friends with benefits."

FF are friends, or maybe only acquaintances, who have a spoken or an unspoken agreement to have sex occasionally, without ever pursuing a romantic relationship. As guys and ladies become increasingly free to indulge in physical relationships with relatively fewer consequences (yippie birth control!), sex is now more casual than ever. Its out there.

As a result, some friends decide to take it to the next level, just for fun, without all the trappings of an actual relationship. Being simply FF is definitely easier at first, but are the negatives that come with it worth the promise of casual sex?

"Check out these pros and cons and decide for yourself. from the NET

Sex with no strings
The most apparent positive point about being FF is the availability of easy sex, without all the pressures and limitations of a relationship. The beauty of this situation is its clarity -- if both sides are honest going into this, then both will know that it's solely about sex. She can never accuse you of using her, or vice-versa, because you've both acknowledged from the start that you're, in fact, using each other. Using each other in a good way, however, because removing all the emotional baggage from sex makes it much simpler and potentially more enjoyable.

Tip: Nonetheless, if you want to give the FF thing a shot, remember the importance of honesty from the get-go. If one of you is going into this secretly hoping for more, then the problem of dishonesty arises, and that person is probably in for a nasty disappointment when it doesn't play out that way. And trust me, nine times out of 10, FF never develop into anything more. It's much more likely that just the opposite will happen. FF tend to slowly drift out of each other's lives over time, or if they start seeing someone else seriously."

I know this is not an accepted norm and no one is asking you to accept them but dont be a horse with blinders. Today's world this is a norm like it or not. We see it on TV, Movies, and so many other avenues especially in real life.


Anonymous said...

ha ha ha ha ha ha! gud blog!

Anonymous said...

do u have any " friends for benefits " for yourself?

Anonymous said...

FUCK pakcik lepas tengok 40yrs old virgin ni. hahahehe..BORK me pakcik ahahaha


Nishanti said...

too much of FF can be boring man! Trust me I'm in that FF category. SOmetimes it's really interesting. Sometimes it sucks big time. NEvertherless.............I'll agree with you about the FF stuff................

darthvadai said...

dah tengok 40 year old virgin woh hahahahah syok betul

Nishanti....ur just a kid in this game to say boring.

anonymous.... i left that game long ago

~*~LostSoul~*~ said...

I'm still in the game ... I do not pursue sex with a "good frenz" becoz it involves feeling ... I'm cool with what I have right now ...