Sunday, April 30, 2006
Saturday, April 29, 2006
I speak my mind at times being where I am standing where I should be, I say more then what some expect to hear, maybe a flaw, maybe a gift, but the immediate repercussions does cut through me. I try to be direct and simple, its less complicated, some like it some dont
So why I do it, I been to the circus, I seen the shows, I been thru the age where you speak in grey and everything is ok. Today I am the grey, if people choose to believe what they want to believe from my words, I dun care.
I used to bend overbackward to help people understand but to what price, to what pain and to what anguish. People around me may or may not understand me. I know those who do, and I know those who dont.
If you can hear my voice at the end of the bar that will be vadai rambling him mind. Listen well there maybe something that you can read between the lines
We lose our most important relationship or had lost it years before. It can crush us with depression, flood us with anger, overwhelm us with scary changes and decisions, new responsibilities, economic hardships, questions about "What do I want to do?" and on and on. This leads you into a spiral. When you start having added baggage like family, in-laws, children, it is compounded 10 folds over.There are profoundly guilty, in turmoil, and feel helpless or embarrassed. It isn't bout guilty but is hurt and shamed by failure and abandonment.
When everyone around you does not allow you to divorce and even to saperate, drastic measures (working measures) to make it happen. With those measures, you have to make sacrifices sometimes its painful. There are time when you are compared and wear a mask so people cant see in you, deep inside there can be no 2 same situation but society never sees it that way.
Many guys find themselves beginning a new life as separated fathers with little or no support from friends or family. They are under prepared for the difficulties they face, become isolated, fail as separated fathers, and experience problems at work and in their personal lives.
who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid;
one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
and humble and gentle in victory…
Give him humility, so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness,
the open mind of true wisdom, and the meekness of true strength.
Then I, his father, will dare to whisper, "I have not lived in vain."
-General Douglas MacArthur
A : Where are you?
Me : I am at *******, whats up?
A : no just back from ....drop.....(family chatting)
Me : (family chatting)
bla bla bla
A : When are you coming down next?
Me : Not sure...y?
A : Want to have a talk with you?
Me : A talk, what about?
A : Dun wori not about you but about me.
Me : Huh
A: : I am most probably going away
Me : Where
A : *****
Me : Then ** how
A : Just me alone, I spoke to **** and she think I should talk with you
Me : Ya right, you call me all the way here just to say that.
A : M nt joking
Me : Just you
A : Yeah, I moving on
Me : (after a brief stunned silence) ok this aint the time or place for this but we will talk soon
A : ok. I wan to talk to you.
Me : Take care bye
Mask on, smiles, mind boggled, wtf is going on back there or could this be a tactical ploy, mind racing, analyze, maybe kansas city shuffle.
Friday, April 28, 2006
m sad.... a great journalist, a light for the PRACTICALITY, TRUTH & SHOWING YOU BLACK AND WHITE when all we see is grey around us, veils of mistrust played by people you lead to trust.....lies all around us
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I intended to be."
MGG was instrumental in the launch of discussion group Sangkancil in 1995 - Malaysia's first online community. I will remember the guruji, my passionate greeting whenever I saw him, as Malaysia's pioneer in cyber activism for using the Internet to pursue his craft -- journalism and political commentaries.My deepest condolences to his family members. May guruji rest in peace. The torch shall burn on.
Daniel Powter - Bad Day
Where is the moment we need at the most
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
They tell me your blue skies fade to grey
They tell me your passion's gone away
And I don't need no carryin' on
You stand in the line just to hit a new low
You're faking a smile with the coffee to go
You tell me your life's been way off line
You're falling to pieces everytime
And I don't need no carryin' on
Cause you had a bad day, You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know, You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day, The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day, You had a bad day
Well you need a blue sky holiday
The point is they laugh at what you say
And I don't need no carryin' on
You had a bad day, You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know, You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day, The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day
Sometimes the system goes on the blink
And the whole thing turns out wrong
You might not make it back and you know
That you could be well oh that strong
And I'm not wrong
So where is the passion when you need it the most
Oh you and I
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
Cause you had a bad day, You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know, You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day, You've seen what you like
And how does it feel for one more time
You had a bad day, You had a bad day
Sometimes things suck, and sometimes they stink one day after another. But eventually things will work out, we'll work through it, and there will be things in life that will make us happy because there will be people there to help us through. Even if things are so shitty and there is no-one who can hold you, Its only a day ! It'll come around...When you least expect it and in the strangest way someone will pick you up and love you.....
Thursday, April 27, 2006
This weekend had been more of a revelation with me as with the workload I had I realised how important to have moments where you pause and smell the flowers, we are so cought up in routine that we just dun see life flashing by. I make it a choice to stop and smell the flowers. I allocate time for 'family' frens and jnr vadai. My world revolved around those 3 priorities, working my ass off to bring home the bread and at time it may not be enough but your out there doing it. You get so cought up in it that it becomes a vicious cycle sucking you down, so on Monday after the tender was over I make it a point to be there for mamak. 8 ppl laughing till they cry, laughing till sides ache having fun. Eating food leaving each own wories, aches, pain at the door and sat and enjoyed.
When Shorts wrote on her blog, I was blown away by the depth in mind this lady had, a very thought provoking article that made me read it twice. I came up with this comment
Joseph Epstein- All men and women are born, live suffer and die; what distinguishes us one from another is our dreams, whether they be dreams about worldly or unworldly things, and what we do to make them come about... We do not choose to be born. We do not choose our parents. We do not choose our historical epoch, the country of our birth, or the immediate circumstances of our upbringing. We do not, most of us, choose to die; nor do we choose the time and conditions of our death. But within this realm of choicelessness, we do choose how we live.
And yet we question choices we and other make day in and day out. hmmmmm
Tuesday, April 25, 2006
As the victims, the perpetrators, or the witnesses we all know lies and almost everyone, honest enough, would admit to lying at some point. It would, however be far more accurate to state that we all have lied and we continue to lie everyday of our lives. Yet almost everyone frowns upon the liar and claims to abhor lies, regardless of the hypocrisy of this. The greatest difficulty in any discussion of lies or lying is how to define what constitutes as a lie. While it maybe straightforward enough to say whether something is true or false, it is not as simple to distinguish between truth and lies. What is ‘true’ resides in reality and by definition is fixed and self evident, while ‘truth’ resides in knowledge and belief, and is not as clear-cut.
“You see, a person I knew used to divide human beings into three categories: those who prefer having nothing to hide rather than being obliged to lie, those who prefer lying to having nothing to hide, and finally those who like both lying and the hidden. I’ll let you choose which case suits me best.
But what do I care? Don’t lies eventually lead to the truth.”
[Jenny is writing. Scenes from the party are intercut with a hallucination of her English professor as Abraxas]
Jenny: I'm sitting in the chair, writhing in agony. A demon, a minor demon, is pinning me there, fucking with my head. 'Abraxas', he says, 'I'm Abraxas, the demon of lies and deceit'.
Abraxas: So, what do you want to know about lies, my dear?
Jenny: I'm not a liar, I try again to get up. This time I'm flayed, splayed. I feel myself screaming.
Abraxas: I'll tell you about lies. There are white lies and black lies, and many shades of grey lies. Some lies are justified. Lies told out of kindness, lies that preserve dignity, lies that spare pain.
Abraxas: Everybody's a liar, dear.
DISTORTION- saying something that could mean two or more things
OMMISSION- intentionally concealing information
FALSIFICATION- giving false information
QUANTITY- altering the amount of information that should be given
QUALITY- altering the veracity of the information
RELEVENCE- changing the importance of the information
CLARITY- not giving clear information
Monday, April 24, 2006
In between, I had to juggle meeting Commander and Cleo, sad that I could not spend enough time with them as I wish or planned and it is like a hi huggg chit chat bye back to work concept.
After 12pm today when the tender closes we should be able to submit and I can go and sleep!!
- makcik rocks KL
- Comander follow suit
- I dun have a relationship with anyone!!!
- Ah Gua (not available in Brunei & Singapore)
Sunday, April 23, 2006
Tun Ghafar Baba, 81, passed away at Gleneagles Intan Medical Centre at 7.34 am today.He was warded since Januay 24 after suffering an asthma attack.He died because of heart, lung and kidney complications.
NST -THE son of an impoverished family, a golf caddy and a ball boy at tennis games, a teacher, a freedom fighter, the country’s longest serving Member of Parliament, a politician who rose to occupy the country’s second highest office.
Tun Abdul Ghafar Baba was all these.
Al Fatihah & condolence to the family. Semoga rohnya ditempatkan bersama org2 yg beriman & beramal salleh.
Saturday, April 22, 2006
A definate need to read blog and the article. She goes to articulate the concept of LRD and abolish them once and for all. Good point
I had this comment on her blog
LDR aint meant to work its just a cheap alternative to saperating and being friend, when you cant do that all these, you start plotting solution that are supposed to work? being 50km 500km or 5000km makes no difference just the same conditions in different environments. Lovely article Bravo
In hindsight we need to elaborate whats kind of relationships that are being defined here, The first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. We define types of interpersonal relationships in terms of relational contexts of interaction and the types of expectations that communicators have of one another.
|Theories of friendship emphasize the concept of friendship as a freely chosen association|
|Family communication patterns establish roles, identities and enable the growth of individuals. Family dysfunction may also be exhibited by communication patterns.|
|Romantic relationships are defined in terms of the concepts of passion, intimacy and commitment.|
The article explored the close relationships generally romantic where the dependancy and the need fot both partners on each other are tested over a distance. For my, this does not apply for family and friends because the need is vastly difference from those in a romantic relationship. There are three basic options when dealing with a long-distance love affair: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away. Each choice may or may not work.
I agree with Trish that LRD dun work in romantic relationships (rare maybe got la) but in family and friends it does work and I am a living testament. This weekend I meet a dear friend who I meet, at the most quarterly. We have a steady relationship, we know about each other good and bad and a bond developed, thats for another blog.
Many cope and they cope in different way, many a times I get to see with my own two eyes how some of my best friend have to cope with pain and sometimes as much as we want to help the best thing is to step aside
Friday, April 21, 2006
The seven deadly sins, also known as the capital vices or cardinal sins, are a classification of vices used in early Christian teachings to educate and protect followers from basic human instincts. Now this is for fun dun read much into the religious thing so. Answer the questions in the link honestly and learn your sin. You may be surprised. You might just learn something new about yourself -- hopefully before it's too late... (try it)
Discover Your Sins - Click Here
This my score
Take the Seven Deadly Sins Quiz
Wicked!!! The key is answer truthfully
Thursday, April 20, 2006
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday hav been busy markeing week, early mornings and late nights taking the breath out of me then inbetween got 2 super soccer matches both the team I like Barca and Gunners won and getting to work the next day and with a full calendar aint no easy task but Vadai delivers.
Has a chance to visit Jen's office for the 1st time and we actually had a pretty open decent deep conversation, my respect for him grows by the day as this is a guy that one can relate and respect to. Ivy intro me as Vadai is here to see him lol she actually does nto know my name. Kewl! Vadai lands in Jen's office. She does make a lovely mug of coffee.
Its gonna be a tough week and the only silver lining is my makcik is coming!!!!!
Tuesday, April 18, 2006
Friendship isn't always easily described. The Eskimos, they say, have a hundred different words for snow. Unfortunately, the English language isn't quite as dynamic, though it has vast vocab to differentiate meaning and it has a vast vocab to say the same meaning different ways
Instead of different words, however, we're stuck with simple adjectives. Close friend. Good Friend. Best friend. Childhood friend. Intimate friend. Trusted friend. Beloved friend. The irony is no matter whether you use adjectives or different words, few could deny the nearly infinite meaning in such a simple word.
Friends are special people. We can't pick our family, we are saddled with what we got, no matter good or bad. Society and public (and often our own conscience) dictate how we select a single mate, but our friends can be as diverse and infinite as the adjectives we choose. Our friends, in a very real sense, reflect the choices we make in life.
If you have a graph, and you position each person on the ranking of trust, closeness, hanging out, bonding, and any other criteria that you see fit and I will guarantee only two things, there is not a singular person who will score in every department and you will not have 2 identical friends.
We place our friends differently and at different levels because we directly and indirectly choose to do so. Some may accept some don't but its a working relationship. So my answer is a good friend is I can depend on and a close friend is a level higher. What you think?
In parting - "Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow grow, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."
Monday, April 17, 2006
Firstly, Buli Balik is a comedy. When it a comedy you same non-malicious pot shots at everyday lives and that normal. Do you go and sue LAT? Give em a break
Let me intro the case as positivelty as I can
On the left corner....
Today's Malay Mail
KUALA LUMPUR: The Malaysia Airlines Flight Attendants Association (MAFAA) wants a written apology from Afdlin Shauki, one of the executive producers of the comedy, Buli Balik.
The association members feel the reference to stewardesses in the movie as toilet cleaners is demeaning.
“Afdlin must make a written apology to us. Many stewardesses have expressed their unhappiness after reading the story in The Malay Mail yesterday,” said MAFAA secretary-general, Ismail Nasaruddin A.W. Maxwell, in reaction to Afdlin’s comments that no malice was intended towards stewardesses in Buli Balik.
On the right corner
'Afdlin: It’s ridiculous'
KUALA LUMPUR: “Ridiculous,” says Afdlin Shauki when told that the Malaysia Airlines Flight Attendants Association (MAFAA) wants a written apology from him concerning a scene in his recent comedy Buli Balik in which stewardesses were jokingly referred to as toilet cleaners.
“I have already said that there was no malice intended when the movie was made,” said Afdlin when contacted by The Malay Mail yesterday.
“For me, this is a ridiculous issue. It also makes the association (MAFAA) look bad as people would think that they do not have anything else to do.”
Read his blog and see his view and tell me what you think
Because I'm a man, when I lock my keys in the car I will fiddle with a wire clothes hanger and ignore your suggestions that we call a road service until long after hypothermia has set in.
Because I'm a man, when the car isn't running very well, I will pop the hood and stare at the engine as if I know what I'm looking at. If another man shows up, one of us will say to the other, "I used to be able to fix these things, but now with all these computers and everything, I wouldn't know where to start." We will then drink beer.
Because I'm a man, when I catch a cold I need someone to bring me soup and take care of me while I lie in bed and moan. You NEVER get as sick as I do, so for you this isn't an issue.
Because I'm a man, when one of our appliances stops working I will insist on taking it apart, despite evidence that this will just cost me twice as much once the repair person gets here and has to put it back together.
Because I'm a man, I must hold the television remote control in my hand while I watch TV. If the thing has been misplaced, I may miss a whole show looking for it (though one time I was able to survive by holding a calculator).
Because I'm a man, I don't think we're all that lost, and no, I don't think we should stop and ask someone. Why would you listen to a complete stranger -- I mean, how could he know where we're going?
Because I'm a man, there is no need to ask me what I'm thinking about. The answer is always either "bingo" or football, though I have to make up something else when you ask, so don't.
Because I'm a man, I do not want to visit your mother, or have your mother come visit us, or talk to her when she calls, or think about her any more than I have to. Whatever you got her for mother's day is okay, I don't need to see it. And don't forget to pick up something for my Mom, too!
Because I'm a man, you don't have to ask me if I liked the movie. Chances are, if you're crying at the end of it, I didn't like it.
Because I'm a man, I think what you're wearing is fine. I thought what you were wearing five minutes ago was fine, too. Either pair of shoes is fine. With the belt or without it looks fine. Your hair is fine. You look fine. Can we just go now?
Because I'm a man, and this is, after all, the 2000's, I will share equally in the housework. You just do the laundry, the cooking, the gardening, the cleaning, and the dishes. I'll do the rest.
This has been a public service message for women, to better understand the Male Animal.
This is so kewl
Whats a tiring Saturday. It was the 1st time I borought jnr Vadai out for a function and oh boy what a war it was to bring him out. Jen's daughter 1st birthday in Rawang and a BBQ. I decided to bring Jnr Vadai but there was too much opposition, I battled every corner and in the end I got him out but it was not without stipulation (who gives a f@#k!!!) So went to PK Sat morning picked him up from Yoga and headed back after lunch. His 1st time in my place to, he love the tortoise and was playing with it, got him to sleep for an hour or so coz he was at the tail end of a bad chest cold and cough.
Prep him up and away we went to Rawang, it was treathening rain but clear skies emerged as we neared Rawang. We arrived there and Jnr Vadai quickly warmed to Jen, Thor-ress, Grandma and Anna and he was enjoying the BBQ, setting up the fire just like any kid would. I was happy he was fitting in. He hit it off with Grandma bullying her actually and also with Jen who at times scooped him up with just one hand. He was delighted.
We both sat down and made our dinner it was nice as he help me bbq the ayam making sure the ayam was dead and got no flu.
Soon the weather took a turn for the worse and we moved indoors, there you learned the benefits fo a wheel barrow.
Jnr Vadai climbed into a van and started 'driving it' I let him be so long he did nto damage it it was his was of having fun, never getting to do the things he wanted to do, soon he made 2 new friends and was having fun between bbq-ing, eating, having coke lol and driving the van.
Then we all step outside to cut the cake and here come the punchline which singing the b'day song when it came to the baby's name, all the gues inclusive of me did not know the name - rotflmao moment - all of us realised that but level it to Jen to raise the level and scream out the name as we continued the song. Mental note find out baby name next time not nick name lol
I was a lovely host haveing a lovely party and the mooon came out. Soon it was timer to call it a night and drove Jnr Vadai all the way back.
Thanks Jen! It was lovely
Darling VS has just dropped of an invite over msn for spaghetti dinner at her place, so I said what the heck and it was not until the night before did I come to know that it was a b'day party for a gud fren's sister. Next day got a gift (not nice go empty handed but it was an awesome gift shared by 3 ppl) , Teddy grabbed us in a economical kancil and we zoomed away.
We were treated to a lovely spaghetti dinner (awesome 2 rounds) and french fried and salad with extra 'virgin oil' with full body lagi lol
Most of the ppl there I had briefly met before but this time it was more relaxing and comfortable atmosphere and the ice got broken. It was not to talk chat and have a few laugh before getting back to the real world.
Oh yeah mental note, try french fries and watermelon together, tip from a fren that loves to drink 'orgasm' lol.
In then end, calling it an early night, headed back with a lift from Teddy, thank you sms to VS and Thor-ress for the invite.
Happy Belated Birthday Thor-ress
Sunday, April 16, 2006
"A Great Guy is about, picking the right battles, help others avoid their failings, get drunk people home safe, and in every situation talk to the person in the room who could use someone to talk to."
This one takes the cake
"Someone who takes care of himself competently, who you don't have to worry about.
Someone who can teach you something about something.
Someone who does not spend all of his time chasing girls and being competitive with other guys.
Someone who has some interest, pursuit, or accomplishment worth the effort going on in his life.
Someone who enjoys the finer things, like relaxation, food, drink, music, art, and can tell a decent story."
In the words of the Great Rudyard Kipling
If by Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream--and not make dreams your master,
If you can think--and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings--nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!
Through time, I have come across a number of female friends talk/chat/sms with me about their difficulty in 'finding a great guy.' On the surface, the search for a good man doesn't sound too difficult - women generally want someone who is funny, down-to-earth, who makes them feel like they're beautiful and fun to be around, and who is at least marginally attractive, above all treat them with respect.(Not bringing in Average Joe) Note : If guys want above average looking girls to go out with, then girls got to have the right of choice to go with above average looking guys. Sorry but this knife will cut both ways.
So why so difficult to get a great guy? Are women just looking in the wrong places? I tend to think that there is a significantly larger pool of talented, intriguing, fantastic women out there than there are men. I agree that great men are in increasingly short supply. We have jerks and jerks!!! I know a few great guys, I love to intro them, any takers lol
If you take a graph and you line up the level of sophistication and matureness of women in general you find an almost level line high up. Now take it for a guy, and find that line scribbling up and down faster then a lie detector test. (This is not guy bashing)
I think one of the reasons women can't find a great guy is because they dun know how too. Girls are their own worst enemy based on hand me downs. Women dun know the love language of men. Women dun know how to get them interested and most importantly keep them interested. (guys are confused of what makes a women tick)
What defines a 'great guy?' What are the characteristics and qualities that make a man one to be admired, respected?
Think of the people you know, the men you talk to and interact with on a day-to-day basis. Do you know a man who you'd define as 'great?' What are the qualities you see in them? What makes them someone worth admiring or respecting? The jackpot question is would you introduce them to your frens who are available?
So are they actually great guys out there. Hell yeah, when you can peel away the pre-conceived notion and standards on looks, then look inside, there are a couple of great guys. The sad thing is as dumb as guys are to jaw drop on babes, girls are guilty too, so whats left!! Average Joes who get lucky sometime, rare but sometimes and the girls who get them are damm lucky. These are the great guys.
Friday, April 14, 2006
Ennangkal Niraivera, Kanavugal Meipada,
Vetrigal Pintondara, Inba Malai Poliya,
Iniya Puttandu Valtukal!!!"
(A new year greeting in Tamil)
Today is the Hindu New Year, yeap its today and for the less informed Deewali is not a new year celebration for the Hindus. Its ironic that despite geographically and cluturaly different during this period the Christians, the Hindus, the Sikhs, the Chinese have major significant celebrations.
The Hindu New Year's Day commences on the first day of the month called Chaitra or Chithirai. It is also called Chaitra Vishu for this reason. The occasion is said to be an auspicious one because, at this time, the sun enters the sign Aries of· the Zodiac. The people call the occasion Chaitra Vishu Punyakalam or, the sacred occasion
Why is the new year during this period??
The reason why the people in India compute the Indian year from this month when the sun enters Aries -- the ram in the signs of the Zodiac -- is said to be one philosophically derived from the science of cosmo-genesis. The Sanskrit word for 'ram' is aja which means 'that which is not born.' Therefore the sign of the Zodiac under reference stands for the ultimate cause of everything, and consequently the month in which the sun enters this sign is rightly considered to be the first month of the year. From time immemorial, the Hindu conception of an ideal life has been one of sacrifices and religious observances. Thus the information regarding the appropriate time for the observance of particular rites or ceremonies becomes important. This information is furnished by the Hindu astrologers and astronomers in the form of a calender called panchangams (off the net)
(masa kini version) The birth of a New Year is a whole new beginning and marks the time when the world awakens from it's wintry slumber. So almost all the Hindu New Year festivals fall on the beginning of the spring months when nature turns bountiful and blesses the earth with fruitful greenery. The beautiful flowers that bloom in spring, the early bird songs, the fresh harvests which are the fruits of past labour and the commencement of a new agricultural cycle . all these symbolise the dawn of another year. Thus, every colourful spring festival of the hindus, with all the expectations, apprehensions, hope and joy woven in the festivities, is essentially a New Year celebration.
Happy New Year All!!!!
Seem to have a break thru, this time in Subang, a fren thru a fren, Raj, manage to hook us up with another party of his frens and scheduled it for Subang 8pm, Jen picked me up (thank jen & azman) but we got caught of a downpour and synonmous with downpour is our jams. 2 frigging hours to get from Dewan Bahasa Pustaka to Desa Petaling, just like that. Got the fustal reschedule to 8.30pm. Beem landed on time (leaving his hp at home earned him 17 missed calls).
I actually played for the whole hour, aside from the dripping sweat, scoring a few goals, letting go a few, jen and I were pleased with the game and especially with the new playing partners we have found. Looks like we found a new group. The goal of the game, Julius our keeper prodding the ball a few yards, seeing the opponent keeper off the line, lobbed a kick ala David Beckhem into a lovely goal. He the man!!!
Finished futsal, had a good dinner with a friend somemore it was free, trashed some things out and got a free ride back. Along the way we discussed a few critical issues that has been clouding each perception of the other. I guess it was important as it was beginning to have an effect which I personally did not like. Well at the end of the day, free dinner, good talk despite missing Kevil Hill hahahaha,
Friendship, though, is a two-way street; in order to find friendship we must first learn how to be a friend. Since each of us has learned friendship skills from a variety of sources, it stands to reason that since no two people are alike, no two people will give or receive friendship in exactly the same way.
You cant just be frens with any Tom, Dick & Harry or Sarah, Susan & Jane for that matter. Sometimes you try and it just does not workout, sometimes you just dun want to try, sometimes you try to hard. The irony is you can never say how long its gonna last or whats around the corner, worrying about it aint gonna change what you have in you hands right now.
The kicker is this, you may want friendship in a different way as compared to what your partners wants, may be more or may be less, but never walk away from it knowing you never tried, that would mean you failed.
We can learn and therefore grow from the friendships we develop. Leaving you with this quote
"We call that person who has lost his father, an orphan; and a widower that man who has lost his wife. But that man who has known the immense unhappiness of losing a friend, by what name do we call him? Here every language is silent and holds its peace in impotence."
"making you look somewhere else, making you look left when you should be looking right."
hahahaha I got to kick M's ass for this it blew my socks off, I went like wow and wow and wow.
This film is a really amazing film, with twists and turns that get you thinking right until the end, and even when the film is finished you still wonder how everything is put together. All of the actors are amazing in this film. As far as action goes there is not a lot but as far as mystery goes its shear class, with names like Lucy Lui *drool*, Stanley Tucci, Morgan Freeman, Ben Kingsly, Josh Harnette and the man himself Bruce Willis.
It has a very complex plot, and lots of things are happening. Basically it is about a case of mistaken identity which involves 2 of NYC’s biggest crime bosses ( the Boss and the Rabbi). Won’t go any further into the story, ...… until you go see it for yourself. Definately would recommend it to anyone!!!
I admit that everything falls into place quite neatly and doesn't wrap with the same impact as say 'The Usual Suspects' but LNS is a fantastic movie. Really Worth it
Thursday, April 13, 2006
Why I expose hime to yoga for children? Ten years ago, that question was most likely asked about martial arts. Now there are classes for children at martial arts studios around every corner. Yoga develops many wonderful qualities in children. Beside the obvious benefits of exercising the physical body, both yoga and martial arts sharpen the child’s ability to focus, give self-confidence, and develop self-discipline. And yoga, practiced regularly, helps children become aware of themselves from the inside out.
Sepet is awesome, please note I used present tense. I still can wathc it coz for me its like a water shed. So when Gubra came out, I had no hesitation to watch it for a sigular fact, that was the belief I had on Yasmin to produce another slammer. And she did.
Gubra has two stories within it. The first revolves around Orked’s family seven years after Jason (yeah he died and what an ending) and the second is about a muezzin and his tiny village community. Gubra is about love, hurt and forgiveness, all of which are represented by the two different “families”.
Orked’s side, she has moved on (like we all should) and married an older man, Arif. Her family’s world is terbalik when her father, Pak Atan (salute Harith and wifey Ide) takes ill and has to be hospitalized. (All these events take place within a short space of a few days as they say the world come tumbling down) At the hospital, she stumbles upon Alan(hubba hubba), Jason’s elder brother, whose father is also in the hospital. In this movie to many guys walking around topless but solid body woh. So Alan and Orked build a friendship ( standing on top a of a lorry and wind blowing in the air hehehe lovely) Ariff show why sometimes we are ashamed to be guy when assholes like these roam the earth. Ya ya he got an affair, then ricidules the woman to satisfy the wife.
When Orked confronts Ariff was both moving, touching and the kicking boxing, the lashing the tears, you could feel the pain, I know some who around me felt it more then the rest but the only thing you can do it feel for they person
Inter woven into this is the 2nd part, the muezzin, Pak Bilal, leads his community which consists two prostitutes, Kiah, who is constantly abused by her regular customer and Temah, whose son has just started Primary One and suffering from an incurable illness. The manner of camera work how this disease is brought out without a word spoken is to be saluted. In our society this is a breakthru.
Quote "While both stories could have been stand alone ones, their combination brings out what probably is Yasmin Ahmad’s wicked sense of humour. Tragedy and comedy are brilliantly interwoven that it often appears to be a marriage of convenience. In doing so, Yasmin Ahmad forces our mind and heart to debate whether to laugh or to sympathize what is happening. A fine example would be the scene where Orked’s family is taking Pak Atan to the hospital
Similarly, in doing so, Yasmin has also depicted irony in its finest form that you would be left powerless in not knowing whether to gawk or to smile. This is very apparent from the beginning of the film when the muezzin is on his way to the mosque to begin his work and he passes the two prostitutes who are on their way home after a hard day’s night."
Life is funny, sometimes it’s in the tiny things our hands do, the way our eyes look at different people or even the most menial of things like signage or posters that can touch the strings of our heart and snap them into pieces. In fact I was just talking to Rudi last night bout an article on transgender transgression in the Sun.
Back to this. My advise Go watch it, Its worth it. Booya
In todays world, guys need to understand this and it can hit at least 2 of this you home safe. Am I wrong? maybe but I believe in communication and communication plays a crucial part in relationships. Effective communication can significantly increase a couple’s satisfaction with their relationship. The key word here is satisfaction. If two people can talk openly and honestly about their problems, they will be more likely to work things out in a satisfactory manner. This will work well for relationships. Many people are uncomfortable talking about problems in their relationships some rather confide in a fren. You may fear hurting your partner’s feelings or even having your feelings hurt. Very Nobel
In the end if you cant talk 70% of how you feel to you partner, 2 choices walk away or strive to improve
Lucky Number Slevin (LNS) wait 1st
If I am gonna rant and rave and praise and talk about Kansas City Shuffle and misdirection, I would do not justice I it do not do a review of a movie that came to our screens 10 years ago.
Director Bryan Singer's labyrinthine crime drama centers on five career criminals (played by Gabriel Byrne, Kevin Spacey, Benicio Del Toro, Kevin Pollak, and Stephen Baldwin) who meet after being rounded up for a standard police line-up. Upon their release, the men band together to pull off an intricate heist involving $3 million worth of emeralds. Their success brings them to the attention of the enigmatic Keyser Soze, an unseen, nefarious, and mythic underworld crime figure who coerces them into pulling off an important and highly dangerous job. The scenes that follow make THE USUAL SUSPECTS one of the most fascinating crime thrillers in cinema history.
Believe every word they say coz this will blow you mind, if M.Night Shyamalan blew you away in The Sixth Sense with his magical ending, then you will be blown away by the ending in this.
Through this movie Keyser Soze became a house hold name of terror and misdirection. Kevin Spacey awe truly awesome in this potrayal. This is a truly Kansas City Shuffle. So whats a Kansas City Shuffle??.... wait for the next blog lol!!!
"The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist."--Kint to Kujan
"It was Keyser Soze, Agent Kujan. I mean the devil himself. How do you shoot the devil in the back? What if you miss?"--Kint to Kujan
Verbal: Gee, thanks, Dave. Bang-up job so far. Extortion, coercion. You'll pardon me if I ask you to kiss my pucker. The same fuckers that rounded us up and sank us into this mess are telling me They'll bail me out? Fuck you. You think you can catch Keyser Soze? You think a guy like that comes this close to getting fingered and sticks his head out? If he comes up for anything, it will be to get rid of me. After that, my guess is you'll never hear from him again.
Who is Keyser Soze?
Keyser Soze (pronounced KAI-zer SOE-zay) is a fictional character in the 1995 movie The Usual Suspects, written by Christopher McQuarrie. In the film, Soze is an underworld kingpin whose ruthlessness and influence have a legendary, even mythical status among law enforcement agents and criminals alike.
MY View Point!!!
One of the main reasons that 'The Usual Suspects' leaves such a long-lasting impression on the viewer is that it takes advantage of the gullibility of the audience thats you and me. For the 80% we are delivered an intriguing and complex story to which there seems no easy answer. When the final piece of the puzzle seems to be in place the entire film is turned on its head. This final revelation initially leaves you speechless and then shortly after the audience realises that they have fallen for a brilliantly inspired trick. The second great trick that this film plays on its audience is making us think that by watching it again we'll be able to understand slightly better what was really going on. NOT!!!!
The Usual Suspects, is, in my mind, one of the most fantastic pieces of film-making ever to grace the screens. That a group of people can come up with a piece of fiction that is so excellent in every way, from start to finish, is frightening. Go watch it!
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
To quote someone:
What is so happy about birthday anyway? Wishing someone "Happy Birthday" is for kids. I say "Happy Birthday" is only appropriate for someone who is under the minimum voting . Remember when you are young, there is always something to look forward to and getting a year closer to the milestone is something to celebrate.
From now on, I don't want to wish anyone who is over the age of 21 a "Happy Birthday" on his/her birthday. At the same time, stop wishing me "Happy Birthday" from here on. Why? A birthday does nothing but to remind someone that he/she is getting year older and there is no joy to it. As one gets a year older, one surely recognizes that through injury and sickness it hurts more than it did a year ago. When you are sliding downhill, the last thing you want to hear is to be reminded that people are celebrating this so-called joyous occasion. It makes no sense.
In a way true and practical but sincerely no fun.
You wanna see fun, its in this pic, A kid wanting a birthday looking forward to it and enjoying it. Weather at 5, 15, 55 or 105 celebrate the day you were brought into this world with the same zest and smile and warmth a kid would have. No shame in that. Booya!!!
It changes when we wake and learn the realities of relationship, the praticality of relationships, and the love conquerors all it a slogan!
Relationship is a hard working effort by 2 individuals who have a goal to make it work, aint about sex as and when it pleases you, but if you get knocked up and who step up to the plate.
Wake up!! Life aint a fairy tale
Monday, April 10, 2006
I just absolutely loved Ice Age The Meltdown. The animation is fantastic. The jokes are hysterical. Its one of those movies that both adults and children can enjoy. Completely great. Ray Romano and Queen Latifah have the perfect voices for the Mammoths. John Leguizamo and Denis Leary are great too. I just loved the entire story line with Diego, and then Ellie the Mammoths story of growing up. Everything was so touching, yet really funny. And Scrat keeps showing up, so he makes everything great.
Even Jay Leno is in this movie. I let you guess which character he played. Amazing
This is an amazing story of survival for members of man's best friend. The story begins when the facilities expedition guide (Paul Walker) and his team of sled dogs is recruited by a scientist seeking out proof of a fallen meteorite. When the scientist is severely injured, the team gets him back to the research station, saving his life. A major storm blows in, and that coupled with the human injury, forces the researchers to evacuate quickly, leaving the dogs behind due to lack of space on the plane. The rest of the movie is told in two parts. One being Walker's quest to find a way back to his dogs, even though he knows he may not find them alive. He simply has to know. The dogs are his family and his love and he believes he owes them every effort to save them. The other part of the film follows the dogs across the frozen tundra in their quest to survive. They hunt, play, fend off an attack by a leopard seal, and stick together in a remarkably structured group.
It was an inspiring tale, based on a true story about people who follow their hearts. This just doesn't happen today in our world of cell phones, blackberries, etc. where everyone just seems to be out for themselves. It was also so nice to see a whole different world - Antartica- a place where most people never see. Having been to New Zealand I appreciate the beauty shown in this movie of the landscape. Go and see
Thur night packing sweet and chocolotes for all the kids at the kindergarden, Jnr Vadai insisted on the kinds of sweet and chocolates thta must be in (there goes my budget)
7.45am up and ready to go, rushing me to get ready, getting the car ready loading the thing into the car, damm 3 bags full for 50 students.
In the kindergarden, the minute he walked in with the sweets, kinds were already wishing him, left the sweets with the teacher and a couple of snap shots of him with his frens. His gfren (sports day) was there too.Way to go Jnr Vadai
Went to the clinic to take medication for my throath, got a heavy dose.
Picked him up after kindergarden, he was on cloud nine beaming ear to ear enjoy his birthday with his frens. Offer to belanja him anything he want for lunch. Jnr Vadai want chicken rice fomr Goodwood, tapau for him, and had lunch with him at home.
My throath was acting up and took a nap wiht Jnr Vadai, by evening he was up and ready for dinner, as usual dress him up, he got his 'tigger' shades and as usual started giving funny poses when the hp camera turns to him
Collected his cake, he wanted a motorcycle cake and he got one
Went to a restaurant for dinner with the family (the usualy politics was there damm frutrating), my focus is still Jnr Vadai and we have fun.
Like I said as soon as the camera turn to him, the posing started and I love the kiddo and enjoy his pics. We love fish and crab and seafood and we cut the cake there.
We got back home and it was time for his present, a while back I blogged how we went ot BTS and play on the rides there. He spotted a bike and all the crying and temper throwing and tantrums made a handshake deal to get that bike for his birthday.
Well he got it
Happy Birthday Jnr!!!
Sunday, April 09, 2006
Call me a sentimental fool but I am a sucker for a good movie, not just the stars, a good script, amazing camera work, sound then who jigsaw puzzle. Time and time again I continued to be dazzled by its magic. Among such moments was one 13 years ago I stood/sat in awe of the magic of movies.
I don't know why I loved this movie so much. Maybe it was the utter amazement when I first saw the Brachiosaurus eat from a tree. Or maybe it was my adrenaline rushing when two 12 year old were attacked by velociraptors. It might possibly be the chills that went down my spine when the T-Rex first made his terrifying roar. Whatever it was, it made me write this blog as I watched the movie again with jnr vadai over the weekend
What can be said about this movie that hasn't already been said? I know that this has some of the greatest special effects, even today. Also, if there's anything that can match the awesome T-Rex, it's the movie's musical score, I even got the CD of the score, absolutely magical.
Each character stood high in the starts especially Dr. Malcom, the math guy, one comment sticks in my mind when he spoke of the direction of science
Dr. Ian Malcolm: I'll tell you the problem with the scientific power that you're using here: it didn't require any discipline to attain it. You read what others had done and you took the next step. You didn't earn the knowledge for yourselves, so you don't take any responsibility for it. You stood on the shoulders of geniuses to accomplish something as fast as you could and before you even knew what you had you patented it and packaged it and slapped it on a plastic lunchbox, and now you're selling it, you want to sell it!
awesome!!!! and how true!!!
It the end it a movie but a damm good one booya
Thursday, April 06, 2006
As I arrived to his home... a fair amount of people sitting out under tents, and near by trees as shadows provided by them.. as I was ushered in circling a simple casket that stood upon two small stools. As I looked down I realized that this was picture that would be forever etched into my mind. A skinny man, with sunken cheeks, and the insence stick smell the numbs ur mind....the ceremonied proceeded as tradition would have it...the men began to cover the casket closed.
There was a ladies that bitch of his passing caused by ‘the virus.... burned me within... I approached them lashed my tongue out at them for their gossiping. Embarassed the slipped out of the house... I was boiling...
There was a feeling of sadness and despair that swept over us. This man was one of many that was neglected by family and friends because of his ‘class’, When he had money all these so called relatives, so called blooded falimies we all around gim and now he was gone and there was only one woman who wailed. She threw herself on the grave and wept and wept. My heart ached for this woman who had lost a friend.
The point of this story is not that this man had no friends, or that AIDS had taken his life. The point is tell you that this day I was sad. I shed a tear. He dies lonely no family, only frens,
We all talk the talk but we dun walk the walk
Wow 5 years, lots of time and good and bad memories has passed, he kind of all I got to work for and provide for in the over all scheme of thing, his mischief and pranks and the sly grin makes my day. Again I go back to the place I left probably only because of him. I would do that again and again coz right now he is my no 1 and my top priority.
Slowly I am exposing him to my life and my friends, when I took him to Rudi's office shirtign was in a small manner to show him my world which he will start to see a lot of.
So many would say in so many ways how my situation could be better, dont, let it be, As they say in business, its a win-win situation for the moment
Happy Birthday Jnr!!!!!
I don't always hear lyrics when I listen to a song for the first time. It takes some time for lyrics to sink in. I'll hear bits and pieces clearly--a few lines that stick out. But rarely hear the whole song. Sometimes, when I finally do, sometimes it makes me cry. This is one of those songs. It's a song I'll listen to over and over.
Name at Birth: Gordon Matthew Sumner aka STING
Sting - Fields of Gold
You'll remember me when the west wind moves
Upon the fields of barley
You'll forget the sun in his jealous sky, As we walk in fields of gold
So she took her love, For to gaze awhile
Upon the fields of barley, In his arms she fell as her hair came down
Among the fields of gold
Will you stay with me, will you be my love, Among the fields of barley
We'll forget the sun in his jealous sky, As we lie in fields of gold
See the west wind move like a lover so, Upon the fields of barley
Feel her body rise when you kiss her mouth, Among the fields of gold
I never made promises lightly, And there have been some that I've broken
But I swear in the days still left
We'll walk in fields of gold, We'll walk in fields of gold
Many years have passed since those summer days, Among the fields of barley
See the children run as the sun goes down, Among the fields of gold
You'll remember me when the west wind moves, Upon the fields of barley
You can tell the sun in his jealous sky
When we walked in fields of gold, When we walked in fields of gold
When we walked in fields of gold
This is an amazing song, a song you can dance to on your own, dun need anyone for this, a song that can play in your mind, sooth the beast within you.
I love this song. As time passes these common events in our lives, like ordinary Barley, sometimes become the ones we remember and cherish and find strength in. They become Gold- the color of the ripe barley harvest. There was sorrow but the enduring relationship overcame it. Children offer hope. They could be the couples. There was common stuff like betrayal but somehow they endured and time healed. We all move on
A movie I relate this song to is the movie Forrest Gump. How he and Jenny played when they were little outside, trying to figure out who she was and what she wanted to do. And then when Forrest asks her to marry him, and is her using him and then leaving. The Forrest is running and running and thinking about her all the time and Forrest loving her until she dies. Gump goes to visit Jenny and finds out that he is a dad & little Forrest is running around outside just like his dad used to. In the end, Forrest remembering Jenny for the rest of his life and remembering how they played when they were little. This is just what I think, but I guess you can manipulate words anyway you want to get your point across but it would fit lovely into that. But this movie willl stand out for me.
Watch blog on the movie out soon
So jumped in the car with Tedy for Badminton, a throughly enjoyable workout played a lot of stroke play, need to build consistance, after last week injury, I kept on doing a lot of stretching on my calf muscles, I also played against ther 'big boys' and was happy with the progress. I need to improve my backhand play but I always like stroke play, my play of the day, back hand cross court net. Awesome!!!!! Kawabunga!!!
David has cought his fish before our Kuantan Trip and only now we managed to eat it, thanks to VS and Alp who hosted us as we all turn there makan minum, I left the gang earlier then expected to met a fren at coffeebean, watch the Arsenal Game, Well done Gunners!!
Checked into bed bout 5am. It was good company and nice to talk things to strangers sometimes. Body feel good but sleepy. Booya!!! Futsal coming up